On Responsibility

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor Frankl
An individual with a strong moral compass exhibits responsible behavior. The obligation to speak the truth, maintain civility, and preserve cleanliness in my living space was instilled in me from an early age. As I progressed through life, further responsibilities were added, including performing optimally in an academic setting, caring for younger siblings, and upholding commitments. As an adult, my responsibilities have multiplied, encompassing consistent employment, financial management, and providing for my family, among others. Responsible actions are highly esteemed, while irresponsible behavior indicates a profound deficit in moral values.

Recently, I have realized that it is also my responsibility to cultivate a high degree of "response-ability." My ability to intentionally select my response determines how I react to any given situation or stimulus. Rather than reacting emotionally to a "trigger" and subsequently attributing my conduct to circumstances, preconceived notions, or the actions of others, I must fully accept that my behavior is the direct result of my own conscious choices, which are informed by my values.

If I am reactive, my emotions, circumstances, and conditions dictate my actions. Does favorable weather elicit positive feelings? Does inclement weather dampen my spirits? How about the social climate? When treated well by others, do I feel well? When treated poorly, do I become defensive or protective? If I am reactive, my emotional state is not under my control, which constitutes irresponsible behavior.

I aspire to be "response-able." I want to be guided by carefully considered, selected, and internalized values. External stimuli, whether physical, social, or psychological, will likely always influence me to some extent. However, I strive to live responsibly by consistently responding to stimuli with choices that align with my values.

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