On Choosing Peace Over an Unhealthy Relationship
I once believed that unconditional love was key to being a good parent. I worked hard at the job, hoping that my love would help my child to grow up well adjusted and happy. I learned the hard way that love isn’t always enough.
Early Signs
What initially appeared as confidence slowly morphed into a need for control and praise. Occasional selfishness turned into a pattern of manipulation and emotional pressure. Before long I was second-guessing every choice I made, wondering what I did wrong. I hoped it was just a phase.
Facing Reality
It wasn't just a phase. It was how things would be. The more I tried, the more I saw entitlement and cruelty.
Even years after emancipation, I was expected to bail them out of their self-inflicted difficulties. I walked on eggshells, trying to avoid angry outbursts. No matter what I did, things didn't and wouldn’t change.
I chose to step back from the relationship. I chose peace.
Choosing to Walk Away
Walking away was hard. Some would call it giving up. I've learned that taking care of myself isn’t an option; it’s a must.
Healing and Finding Myself Again
Letting go of the unhealthy relationship has been tough but also freeing. I've found a measure of strength and peace in not being defined by someone else.
Moving Forward with Kindness
Regardless of whether the relationship ever changes, my life is currently free from manipulation.